What was the most important day of your life? Ask your parents, friends or relatives or pick a random face off the street. Those who don’t name the birth of their first child will likely answer, “The day of my wedding.”
It’s a day when a promise is made that lasts an entire lifetime. When else are such covenants created? A marriage means committing to someone else and allowing that commitment to carry the relationship through times of strife, irritation or despair.
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