Dinner used to mean a reservation. Now it means a group text, an assigned course and someone who shows up with a bottle they’ve been meaning to open. For Americans who entertain regularly, the math on dining out has quietly tipped, and a new set of hosting formats fills in where the restaurant used to be.
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