Twenty years ago, during the Reagan administration, I encountered a young producer at National Public Radio who said she and her husband had decided not to have children because they were convinced they’d die in a nuclear war.
Immediately, I told her, “Please, have children. There’s not going to be a nuclear war.” I have no idea what she did.
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