Nearly one in four women in the United States will experience severe physical violence from an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Yet the majority of domestic violence incidents are never reported to police, a gap researchers have been documenting for decades. Below, WSM Law, a family law firm that represents women in divorce and custody cases across several states, examines why domestic violence victims often don’t report the incidents.
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