When a loved one struggles with addiction, it’s easy to become resentful. Families see the addicted person prioritizing their substance above all else, but what they often don’t see are the underlying challenges leading to those actions. For many people who struggle with addiction, as AdCare Rhode Island explains below, there’s a mental illness for which alcohol or drug use is a misguided attempt to cope.
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