Money advice isn’t one-size-fits-all. How we navigate finances differs based on our backgrounds, priorities and family structures. For LGBTQ+ consumers, that can mean traditional money advice doesn’t always apply, says Nick Wolny, a personal finance columnist for Out magazine.
That’s why he wrote “Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt, and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future,” which is NerdWallet’s latest Book Club selection.
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