Casual home gatherings are becoming more common across the country, and many hosts are also asking guests to help provide the food. Hosts and guests walk into potluck season without settling a handful of basic questions in advance: how a dish should be labeled, who is expected to bring which part of the meal and whether guests are supposed to take their own leftovers home. None of those questions comes with an instruction manual, which is exactly the problem.
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