A Thanksgiving invitation sounds simple until the replies arrive. One guest is vegetarian, another avoids dairy, someone has celiac disease and a cousin has a food allergy. Suddenly, the host is not just planning dinner. They’re trying to understand several definitions of safe and fit them onto one table.
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