The case against social media has gotten so well rehearsed that most people can easily merge it into ordinary conversation: It makes people lonely. It sorts them into camps. It hands them a room full of people who already agree with them and calls that a community.
I’ve given this speech myself, with feeling, having read my phone notifications in the host’s powder room 11 minutes earlier.
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