A while back I stumbled on an online article entitled “50 Regrets All Too Common Among People Over 50.” It didn’t appear to be click bait, so I perused it.
The second paragraph was revelatory, intoning a survey of 1,000 people over 60 (not 50) found “only 17%” of the respondents were regret-free.
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