Photo credit: Evermore Orlando Resort and Conrad Orlando at Evermore
Evermore Orlando Resort added something unusual to its holiday lineup this year. Alongside Santa sightings and lagoon days, the 1,100-acre destination near Walt Disney World rolled out a program built to help families actually talk to each other.
A Harvard-trained social scientist helped design the new traditions. Thanksgiving dinner now arrives with conversation starters meant to keep relatives at the table long after the pie is gone.
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